Why We Are No Longer Doing GAPS/ General Update

I only commented about 3 week ago we were stopping. Perhaps I should go into why.

To start out with, I am bummed. I did not want to stop. But, I was also trying to be smart.

I think we have officially decided that whatever is going on with Mark it is /not/ diet related. GAPS made absolutely no difference in him after the first few days. Going off GAPS made no difference. Doing an elimination diet last year made absolutely no difference– better or worse.

Since he has started having problems we have done several specialized diets and nothing effects it one way or the other. We have seen two doctors who thought it was diet related, and the second one would not look any further even after we told him we have done allergy testing and an elimination diet. We are in the process of getting to another who is willing to dig deeper.

Natalia was doing GREAT on GAPS and is not doing so great off of GAPS. By eliminating corn (which we already were for nearly a year) and gluten we have achieved similar results. We are also trying to avoid soy, but are not quite as thoroughly (we went out to eat a few times to a restaurant that uses soybean oil instead of corn.) But, she still has the occasional upset stomach, her craddle cap is back, and though her face is nothing like it was it is a little splotchy and itchy.

We stopped mostly for me. At 28 weeks I started having contractions, baby was getting low (0 station), my cervix was effacing (30%) and beginning to dilate ever so slightly. My midwife gave me a list of things I should not be doing, and told me in the case of contractions I had to get off my feet immediately.

By next appointment she reemphasized that fact, after several weeks of not gaining I had started losing weight (I wonder if that had anything to do with the fact that basically anything GAPS legal repulsed me and I was throwing up like crazy…), my PH was off (again), my sugar was high, and I was an emotional wreck.

We were very stressed with trying to keep with GAPS while I was feeling sick and throwing up, unable to do much without having problems, and Mark was crazy busy rushing to finish his thesis which he had 18 days to write and defend. We thought he had a few months but then discovered that he was charged for a credit hour and unless we wanted to pay for that, the hefty late fee (since we did not know about it) and the credit hour again he did not have months to finish he had days.
My midwife asked we limit our stress as much as possible– and coming of GAPS (even though the transition was really rough for my baby girl) has REALLY helped with the amount of contractions and other worrisome things that have been happening.

Yesterday, we even had another appointment and everyone was pleasantly surprised by the almost complete lack of dilation, baby is only a little lower (I forget the number but maybe not even +1), the only thing which had “progressed” was I was effaced now 50%. I had finally gained some, my PH was normal, and now we only have to tackle the nausea and continue to take it easy.

I am a little frustrated with the return of some symptoms we had seen go away on GAPS– insomnia, really really really itchy ears, and general itchiness. But, am better able to cope now that Mark is done with his thesis and I am not trying a very complicated diet.

Now, I guess we better focus on the fact that baby is coming! I am 35 weeks and we do not have a name (though we know the meaning), a carseat, a van, the wooden cradle is still being used for toys, no clothes have been gotten out, and my house does not in the least feel ready for a new baby!

In Which I ask My Son for Grace (and he reminds me he is capable of much)

If there is one thing I feel like I will never learn about my kids it is this- they are capable of so much more then I give them credit for. Sometimes it is just easier to expect them to scream and cry about being put to bed, when they are hungry, and when they do not get their way. How many times do I both expect these behaviors, and discipline or lose my cool over them?

The other day Christopher woke up the dramatic fear of eminent starvation. He had slept in a good hour longer then usual, and so it was far worse then his usual waking up hunger.

The situation was drastic- and what was I doing? Not cooking. I was cleaning!

You see the day before I had hurt my toe pretty badly. I was going to the kitchen to make breakfast when it was attacked by a flying cooling rack. Don’t you hate when that happens?

I spent the next hour and a half on the couch wondering how in the world I was going to get up and fix the kid’s breakfast. Natalia’s dietary needs leaves little room for grace in our kitchen. If I do not cook- we do not eat. If I can not walk- it is hard to cook.

When I was finally able to get up to cook, it was still painful. I got a meal done, but did not even clean up from cooking. Each meal was the same story- stand long enough to cook but not clean. The next morning the kitchen was a wreck. So much so I did not feel like I should, or really even could sanely, cook.

I was short on sleep, and breath, so cleaning up the kitchen was a slow process but at least needed to happen partially.

It was far from an ideal situation, my kids really wore hungry.I was not shocked by any means by the crying or begging for the non-exsistant bananas they are sure I can make appear out of thin air. However, that did not stop that that, the fact that I was hungry too, and the fact that I was making slow progress was really stressing me out.

Rather then take it to the Lord, or explain the situation to my kids, I did the opposite of what I should have done and lost my cool “get out of here! both of you! I wish we were eating breakfast now too! I will feed you as soon as I can.”

The kids left, and cried in the other room. *major mommy fail*

Needless to say I felt rotten- and with good reason. I prayed and asked for both forgiveness, and endurance.

Then I needed to apologize to the kids.


I did that, as well as something crazy. I asked for grace from my not even four year old. I told him about how I could not cook yet, because the kitchen was too messy, I told how the kitchen was so messy because while I had to cook the day before walking hurt so much that I did not clean up from it. I told him how I was trying really hard to take care of them- but I was human, I was injured, and I needed his help. I needed him not to be crying at me right then.

I asked him to take his sister upstairs and keep her busy. I asked that they not “remind” me again that they were hungry. I reminded him that I had always fed him before and that morning, though it would be long, was not going to be an exception to that trend.

He smiled. He got it. I was floored.

Why do I forget that sometimes all he needs is a little bit of explaining? That he is capable of far more then I give him credit for. That even though it was understandable that he had been crying and begging to be fed, that he had control over those actions.

Why did I have so low expectations of him, that I forgot he was capable of gracious behavior?

They happily played upstairs for 30 minutes. Then we ate breakfast, and while I can not say we lived happily ever after, our morning was quite beautiful from then on out.

 

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