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Showing Respect to Young Children

I believe it is important to teach children to respect us as their parents, but equally important is we need to show respect to our children. Even while they are super young. How can we expect respect without demonstrating it? The respect we need to give them is not a mirror image of the respect they show us as parents, or even what it will look exactly like as they get older, but it is respect all the same. We should show it to them because they are made in God’s image and are individual’s with specific needs, ideas, and purposes.

Today I am sharing five important ways we need to show respect to our young children. No, it is not an exhaustive list, but these are some of the biggies.


5 WAYS WE CAN, AND NEED TO, SHOW RESPECT TO OUR YOUNG CHILDREN

1. Not lying to them. I might step on some toes here, but I feel I must say this. We should respect our children by NOT LYING TO THEM! How is it respectful, or loving, to take advantage of the fact we know more then them and therefore can get away with lying? Who is it truly benefiting when we just decide to tell them “oh those ice cream cones have bugs in them” (not one I’ve actually heard, but I’ve heard plenty of similar ones) because we don’t want to deal with them being upset? How is that even beginning to be beneficial?

2. Listening to them. Truly hearing what they have to say. Not just giving them half an ear while being distracted by something else, because what they are saying is not of immediate interest to us. They may be small, but that does not mean they do not have feelings. Show them the respect of truly hearing what they have to say.

3. Not trivializing their problems. How many times have you prayed about a struggle you were facing and God sat back and laughed “oh you silly little baby. How did you get yourself in that mess? I guess I better help you now.” Never. His response is always loving. He is after all Love. Seeing the things that cause such frustration and turmoil for my children often look incredibly small to me. It makes me wonder how small our problems seem to so big a God. They are not a small deal to us, and can be completely out of our hands, but He has them under control. It’s similar (but on a MUCH MUCH MUCH different scale!) with little kids and us. How terrible would it be if we could not take things to God and pray over them because we thought he would laugh at us. Thankfully that will never be.

Sometimes Christopher has to come to me for help unzipping a jacket, or other such things. Why? He simply can’t handle it. How terrible would it be for him if he felt he could not come to me for help because ‘she’ll just laugh at me’. ‘I’m only two, and truly I can not handle this problem, but since it’s so easy for her she’ll ridicule me’. Needing help unzipping a jacket is not a  life threatening problem, but it’s a big deal for him.

I’m not saying we ignore when they are making too big of a deal of something, teaching them often they just need to ask for help (and they’re safe doing so), but a little empathy goes a long way. One day these little children are going to have bigger problems, and I want them to know I respect them enough to take their problems seriously. That they are safe to come to me. It might not always be something I can handle as easily as unzipping a jacket, but they are welcome to ask all the same. We can take it to God together.

4. Teaching NOT Criticizing Teaching and criticizing are about as opposite as they get, and yet they are often intertwined. Criticism is used as a teaching tool. How can someone teach without a student? And how can there be a student (someone willing to learn) if the first thing done is to shut that person down? Teach, patiently show and explain what is going on, don’t criticize.


5. Knowing your kids are not extensions of yourself. Our kids are not us. They are different.
God made each of us unique. We should raise up our children in the way they should go. Remember how the Church is a body with different parts? Our goal should not be to raise an ear (or finger, or eye), just like us, but to prepare our kid to the best of our ability to do what God intends for them. He already has a plan for them!

 



What are some ways you think it is important to show respect to a younger child? What about an older child? A young adult?

Comments

  1. What a fabulous post! My biggest struggle is with being distracted when my four-year-old is telling me the same long, made-up story for the second time. ;-) I’m going to try stopping what I’m doing and getting down on the floor with her so she knows that I’m listening the FIRST time. I remember wishing the grownups would listen to me when I was little.
    Thanks for challenging us, Debra!

  2. What a great post, Debra! I know these things will certainly be a challenge for me as my children get older. I love the analogy you used about not trivializing our little ones’ problems.

  3. Good post. These would be good things for teachers to think about, as well as parents.

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